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Love Without Labels
Seconds after she happily agreed to be his girlfriend, a spotlight burst a beam directly on the new couple, blindingly illuminating where they stood and leaving them frozen before a judgmental audience of family and peers. Unfortunately, that is what it feels like for the majority of teenagers in the beginning of a budding relationship- as if their love life is suddenly on display. Becoming an official couple destroys the old fashioned style of dating, causes pointless arguments while stifling independence, and allows no privacy between the two people involved.High school students should not label themselves as boyfriend and girlfriend because not only does it cause more problems than necessary, it also puts expectations on them about how a couple should act rather then allowing them to be themselves.
Rarely are teenage boys today heard asking girls, “Hey, would you like to go to on a date with me this Friday night?” More often than not, the boys bypass the dating stage and skip right to: “Hey, want to be my girlfriend?” Traditionally, dating consists of going out to dinner, seeing a film, or doing activities with another person in order to get to know them on a different level. After several dates, it is probably clear whether or not the person is relationship material. Because most couples are established before any dates have actually taken place, the guy and girl tie themselves down to each other without properly learning more about the other individual. Theoretically, most high school relationships nowadays are formed backwards: the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend are assigned, and then the couple might go on a real date once or twice. Old fashioned dating is nearly nonexistent among teens. In many ways, high school relationships begin doomed because the people committing themselves do not know what they are getting into. Regardless of whether or not they know each other, guys and girls dive head first into a relationship because that is what everyone else is doing.
Once two people become boyfriend and girlfriend, arguments tend to spread like wildfires. The girlfriend complains to him about not calling her last night, and the boyfriend gets jealous that she talks to other guys. These pointless disagreements occur because certain responsibilities come with being in a relationship, and most teenagers are either too immature to handle the responsibilities, or have been taught by society how a significant other is supposed to act. Also, many boyfriends or girlfriends become extremely controlling and the independence of the individual is gradually drained. Without the label, there are no forced responsibilities, and definitely no controlling partner. Many annoying and time consuming problems are craftily avoided by not labeling an innocent relationship as being composed of a boyfriend and girlfriend.
At times, students seem to place a fresh couple under a microscope and start dissecting them piece by piece. Intimate details are spread in detail around the classrooms, and rumors are whispered. By not labeling a relationship, the privacy of the two people is preserved. No one scrutinizes their every move, and there is no classic high school drama. More importantly, there is no expectation to rush into saying, “I love you.” The relationship is brought down from being a public ordeal to a private expression of mutual feelings between two people.
The boyfriend and girlfriend label should not be used by high school students because it creates frustrating problems and over shadows the teenager's true feelings with expectations of how official couples should supposedly act. Dating to get to know someone has vanished, the responsibilities cause arguments, and comforting privacy is stripped away by the scrutiny of others. If the feelings between two students are truly pure, they do not need a superficial label to know that they hold a place in each other's hearts. In the absence of the spotlight, honest, unashamed feelings are readily declared. No audience is needed, because there is only one person in each other's eyes who could possibly comprehend the intensity of the emotions felt.
Dell Rapids, South Dakota
East Cleveland, Ohio
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Heir to the Empire, by Timothy Zhan.
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"Judge lest not you be judged"
"Take the plank out of your own eye before the speck out of your brother's"
"live each day as if it's your last"
"God doesn't give you what you can handle, He helps you handle what you are given"
A label also says you are comfortable introducing someone you love to your world - your friends, family, and acquaintances, "Yes, this is my girlfriend..." and aren't ashamed or worried to do so.
And as for anonymity, that might actually cause MORE gossip, as people aren't sure whether or not someone's available. Try Brangelina or Biance/JZ as a pop culture example. More talk came about speculating and about when they would make it official. Crazy rumours start when there's little information. So whether there's a label or not, people who notice will still dissect and prod. All it takes is curiosity, not enough information, and a big mouth, not a label.
Are you saying putting a label makes a relationship any less honest, meaningful, and true? That it causes an argumentative, frustrating, and overall terrible relationship? Have you not seen people who keep it on the 'down low' and still end it? How about happy couples who make it official? Because I see many high school sweethearts who have made it down the aisle and are still quite happy. So not only would many people disagree, but they would probably find this very offensive!
overall, this seems like an ok attempt at a persuasive essay, but (possibly) your personal experiences or maybe a relationship you've seen has made it biased, generalized, and over-simplified. Even in high school, even the buds of a first love, can be a complicated issue, and putting a culprit like "labels" to blame could be a bit exaggerated - especially with how teenagers act these days. Drama is there no matter what you call two people. Teenagers will be teenagers.