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Why Do We Do This?

June 17, 2014
By monikitty12 PLATINUM, New York, New York
monikitty12 PLATINUM, New York, New York
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Favorite Quote:
Don't cry because its over. Smile because it happened.

The real question is why? Why do we waste our time thinking about guys and crushes? Why? They do absolutely nothing to get you a good future and a good college to get into. Millions and trillions of girls in the world focus on them way too much, fall too deep in love, and cut themselves because of too much pain. They then lose their humanity and start blaming themselves and other innocent beings with pure detest and bitterness, not knowing who they truly are anymore.

I had a friend in 7th grade whom had a huge crush on this guy in our class and soon she fell too deep. The problem was that he hated her; practically wanted her to get out of the school. I completely understood why he felt that way about her, she stalked him everywhere, felt jealous when he looked or talked to other girls, and when he talked to me especially because we were friends, she blamed me for everything. Her angelic used to be self vanished with a dart and a dark side came out of her. This caused many fights between the two of us and we immediately stopped being friends. I had nightmares about her and she completely turned into a devil. Her words, the cuts on her arms slowly turned visible to others but no one felt sorry for her, since she had no sympathy or self-respect to herself. She finally moved away at the end of 7th grade but everything about her still lingered inside my mind, too cooped up to run away.

This event really haunted me and everyday from that year, I wondered to myself. Why bother to like a guy if its only gonna torn you up on the inside and rip away your humanity? Even worse, when that guy doesn't like you back, notice you, or even detest you like my "friend" went through. I know now exactly why she felt that way especially since I have a crush. But I learned how to control it. What about you guys? What do you guys think?

Comment below for all your opinions! Does this issue need to be noticed? Before it gets worse and be the cause of many deaths in the state?

The author's comments:
Many girls are complaining about how many boys never notice them in school.

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on Oct. 16 2016 at 8:17 pm
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Favorite Quote:
"It tastes like a rose, but it's less thorny and it tastes worse." - Sade
"Love doesn't discriminate." - Hamilton Musical (Aaron Burr)
"A weirdo of the highest order." - Counting Thyme

I do think that getting all worked up over a guy/girl, especially in school, is not going to help you, but there is absolutely no shame or no harm in liking someone; it is the actions that come from those feelings that can get you into trouble. You can go out on a date, have some fun with your crush, etc., but that shouldn't be your top priority. Feelings don't always last forever.

on Jul. 17 2014 at 9:18 pm
monikitty12 PLATINUM, New York, New York
35 articles 0 photos 52 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't cry because its over. Smile because it happened.

I agree with you 100% i couldn't have said it better :)

on Jul. 8 2014 at 12:51 am
the-unrehearsed GOLD, Calgary, Other
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Favorite Quote:
All the world's a stage and most of us are desperately unrehearsed.

As a girl in whose experience boys make far better friends than anything else, I can empathize with you on this issue - after all, we're all submit to hormones and the emotional wreckage of the teenage years. I think this applies to both girls and boys however. One of my closest friends recently went through a tough breakup and he hasn't been the same ever since.    Nonetheless however, I think love is an experience that we all will experience and learn to cherish, but we need to be patient and wait for our time to arrive. Good things come when we least expect it.