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Expect the Worst, Hope for The Best

September 1, 2009
By DavinaAdjani BRONZE, San Rafael, California
DavinaAdjani BRONZE, San Rafael, California
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Favorite Quote:
When I get logical, and I don't trust my instincts - that's when I get in trouble. -Angelina Jolie

Today I did something very daring: I deleted my Facebook. I did not see the point of it. As I was looking through my so called friends, applications which said "what I liked", I realized Facebook was my way of lamely attempting to prove to everyone (exboyfriends, friends, family members) how cool and put together I am. How many times have you taken a picture and said, "Oh man, I have to upload that on Facebook! I hope (put name here) sees it!" How many times have you been out and something funny happens and you feel the need to make it your Facebook status. How many times have you spent your time reading what other people are doing while you are sitting on your butt doing nothing? Yup, thought so but no worries, I have as well. After de-activating my personal web page of pictures taken of me making funny faces (which we all have done and uploaded with quotations saying "God I'm such a dork" yet find ourselves misleadingly fun and sexy in), I went through my cellphone and started deleting. I deleted 100 numbers, no joke. I had no idea who half the people were in there and I figured, if I am such an important person in their life, they will call me.
It is great to be an open person but I was exhausted with being so accessible I'm not saying I am "too cool" to be friends with you but my idea of a friendship as changed. Being friends consists of calling me and saying "hi, what's up?" Not commenting on a photo of me after not talking to me for a year, being drunk and posing with a bottle booty in the air. Being my friend consists of writing me a birthday card, not writing on my wall "yo, happy birthday! It's been a while hope all is well!" because a stupid website reminded you that it was my birthday. If you are my friend, you would know November 4th is my birthday and I would like a gift certificate to Peets Coffee (thanks in advance!)
While I was cutting out the bullsh*** in my life, "pretty blue eyes" texted me at 11:33 pm saying, "Hey sugar I'm back!" Pretty Blue Eyes has never taken me out to dinner. He has never made plans with me in advance. He feels that it is alright to call me at ungodly hours to make plans and that is not his fault. I let him! You know what I did? After replying that I was in the city, (he lives about 45 minutes away which by the way, he should be willing to drive), I deleted him. I'm sorry show me some respect if you want some.
Last but not least, I remembered the reason I was putting my armor up. My father has always treated my trust like a drive by window now before you label me as "the girl with daddy issues", let me explain one thing. I wouldn't be this strong of a person if I hadn't had to deal with the lovely roller coaster he and some others have put me through. Some of us chose to be ignorant, and hope that the next person is different. To tell you the truth? He/She probably isn't. We can learn from our mistakes. Expect the worst and hope for the best. Love wouldn't be such a treasure if everyone found it however the hardest love to find is the one for yourself. So delete your Facebook and learn the art of being a mystery, someone different and less available to the public. Keep the people who treasure you and forget the rest.

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on Sep. 3 2013 at 3:32 pm
TheIdealist SILVER, New York City, New York
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Favorite Quote:
"We all die. The goal is not to last forever. It's to create something that does."

You deleted your Facebook account? Thank the Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At least there's one person left in the world with some actual common sense and social skills!

on Dec. 26 2011 at 4:39 pm
BlueRain BRONZE, Clarkston, Michigan
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Favorite Quote:
"Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control."

That's really sad.. I miss the days where people actually had conversations. Verbally. Eventually, we'll all have wires stuck in our brains and we won't have to say a word. What a life.

Arexandrita said...
on Nov. 22 2011 at 2:22 pm
Arexandrita, Lake Elsinore, California
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Favorite Quote:
"Luck is simply Laboring Under Correct Knowledge"

About 3 months ago I started purging my friends list of people I didn't know and eventually I deactivated my account (because you can't permenantly delete it) But eventually I reactivated it because like it or not facebook is a part of modern life. For example, one day I came to school and my band section was going on about what a fun time they had over the weekend. So I asked why no one hadnt invited me, and it turns out that they had. Over Facebook.

So imagine how upset I was. The whole week leading up to the sectional no one verbally mentioned anything, they just assumed that I like everyone else was obsessed with checking my page every other minute.

Fate98 GOLD said...
on Apr. 6 2011 at 3:54 am
Fate98 GOLD, Glasgow, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"Life isn’t about how popular you are… What girl or boy you are dating or who you know. Life is about always being true to who you are or what you believe in. Never let anyone convince you that their way is better than your way. In the end all we have is our hearts.. and our minds. This is the reason we sing.. this is the reason we cry… this is why we live." - Andy six"

Ye i deleted mine too, it was kind of taking over my life.  Ps. "Expect the worst, hope for the best" Thats my saying how did you get it :-)

dreamgirl756 said...
on Jan. 23 2011 at 12:08 pm
dreamgirl756, Chicopee, Massachusetts
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Favorite Quote:
"I've realized that the more I know about myself, the more I can live the rest of my life in a way that makes sense." -David Archuleta, Chords of Strength

I never had a facebook because I never saw any point in even having one. Good for you on getting rid of it! My friends have been forcing me to get one for a while and I always kept saying no because I never saw the point, and really don't care for it. Thank you for writing this!

HuggyPunk said...
on Jan. 8 2011 at 12:09 pm
I deleted my own Facebook page immediately after I read this =)

on Dec. 17 2010 at 2:05 pm
CatherineK SILVER, Omaha, Nebraska
7 articles 4 photos 19 comments

Favorite Quote:
“In all things it is better to hope than to despair”

I agree, but I keep my facebook simply because I have a lot of friends that live far away

on Nov. 25 2010 at 12:34 am
DawnMarie BRONZE, Milton, Florida
2 articles 0 photos 32 comments

Favorite Quote:
a bird doesn't sing because it has an answer,
it sings because it has a song. - lou holtz

Great article. I deleted my Facebook just a week ago. I still get twinges of longing every once and a while, but other than that it's going good :)

on Jun. 2 2010 at 1:17 pm
WhiteBear SILVER, Beckenham, Kent, Other
8 articles 31 photos 99 comments

Favorite Quote:
Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.

Omg, I can totally relate to this, i recently deleted my facebook simply because I thought it was a waste of time and effort.

on May. 11 2010 at 10:56 pm
kread18 DIAMOND, Berkeley, California
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haha finally someone is saying something we're all afraid to admit... do you ever find yourself doing somehitng interesting/exciting, and instead of focusing on what you're doing, you spend some time thinking about what kind of facebook status this is going to make later? I love facebook, I use it all the time to talk to good friends who live on the other side of the state, but it has become a way to present ourselves in an engaging manner to countless people without having to actually do anything engaging... we just have to put something on our profiles about it. I have mixed feelings about this :)

Zalmon BRONZE said...
on May. 11 2010 at 8:27 pm
Zalmon BRONZE, Lee, New Hampshire
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Favorite Quote:
"There's something about being that tired and that happy that just makes you kind of high."
about my black belt graduation

omg, i did the same exact thing, for the same reason. TAKE THAT FACEBOOK!!! oh, nothing to you facebookers, that's cool too.

melodeess GOLD said...
on May. 11 2010 at 11:15 am
melodeess GOLD, Edison, New Jersey
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this is great! i love using facebook myself, but i totally agree with what you are saying. and yes, sometimes, i do take a picture & upload it to fb so ___ can see it :D  loved this!

Bethani GOLD said...
on Apr. 26 2010 at 6:44 pm
Bethani GOLD, Highlands Ranch, Colorado
10 articles 0 photos 508 comments

Favorite Quote:
Life is perfect until you sit back and realize how boring it is without risks.

I understand now. Just be an individual is the message. 

Bethani GOLD said...
on Apr. 26 2010 at 6:43 pm
Bethani GOLD, Highlands Ranch, Colorado
10 articles 0 photos 508 comments

Favorite Quote:
Life is perfect until you sit back and realize how boring it is without risks.

I think I understand. Just be an individual is the message. Thank you. 

author said...
on Apr. 25 2010 at 7:35 pm
That is understandable. However, I don't think you get the intention of what I am saying. Please read again. 

Bethani GOLD said...
on Apr. 25 2010 at 7:33 pm
Bethani GOLD, Highlands Ranch, Colorado
10 articles 0 photos 508 comments

Favorite Quote:
Life is perfect until you sit back and realize how boring it is without risks.

I agree with your saying but facebook for me is about control. Only going on once a day to play a game and keep up with my relatives and family friends who live out of state. It's not about popularity for me. It's just a connection. So get a grip! Not everyone will live without facebook! 

Davina said...
on Feb. 12 2010 at 12:19 am
Well...I can't answer that for you. When you are ready to, you will and hopefully these points help you out!

hockjok7 said...
on Feb. 2 2010 at 3:43 pm
so what to do if i agree with your every point made, but still cannot seem to bring myself to deleting my facebook account?

Davina said...
on Dec. 9 2009 at 1:13 am
Thank you so much that means a lot to me!

on Dec. 8 2009 at 11:50 pm
emmajumbilia SILVER, Bellingham, Washington
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Favorite Quote:
"As soon as you stop wanting something, you get it" - Andy Warhol

This is so amazingly true - thank you for addressing something so many of us unconsciously overlook. Love the ending especially! This makes me want to delete my facebook too, or at least a good number of 'friends' off my friends list.