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play to his masculinity

November 2, 2016
By chessi.maria PLATINUM, Brooksville, Maine
chessi.maria PLATINUM, Brooksville, Maine
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"play to his masculinity" was part of an ad I saw on YouTube.

Tips for “getting the guy,” standing out, making him notice.

He wants to feel powerful, the ad informed, and if he feels

that way around you, he’ll want to be with you. So remind him,

its advice ran, how strong he is: let him know that

“I feel so safe around you.” Play to his masculinity.


But some women, including me, wouldn’t feel comfortable

taking that advice, and this issue is much deeper than some ad

promoting a company’s product on YouTube. I don’t feel

comfortable letting a guy believe I want him to protect me—

and I don’t like it when boys will hold open the door for me,

or try to pay, or pick up my bag to carry. I know they aren’t

implying that I’m not able to do these things myself. But as

they try to take the “heavy work,” they’re also taking

an affirmation of their masculinity—

at a cost to us, as they reduce our sense of independence

and force us to defer to their masculinity.


Most men don’t even seem to realize this is an issue,

but a lot of women aren’t able to honestly

“play to their masculinity” in order to let them feel strong,

without losing through it just as much as they’re gaining.

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