Sometimes you just need to stop trying to keep everything in order and just relax. Let go and don't worry about everything. That's all great and good but in the greater scheme of things, it is usually better to just stay in order; making sure everything is exactly right because, when you do that, you can make sure you have no heart ache. You can assure yourself that you won't be hurt by anyone and no one will use you. But on the other hand even the most organized people who never let anyone in are hurt by the words thrown at them and the people that they let in before. Always tell someone the truth. Because if it were you on the receiving end, if you had to choose between a comforting lie or a horrible truth, what would you choose? Something that might comfort you then and hurt you more later or a horrible truth that will crush you then but never hurt you later? You decide whether the wall should stay or go. It's your choice not anyone else's; you'll let it go when you're ready...