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The Downsides of Boyfriends

August 25, 2010
By singing4ever GOLD, San Francisco, California
singing4ever GOLD, San Francisco, California
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Favorite Quote:
"Those who wish to sing always find a song." And, as a close second, "I have always imagined that Paradise will be some kind of library."

The downsides to having a boyfriend? You’ve got to be kidding me, right? Being in a relationship is the most wonderful thing in the world, right?
Right. Most of the time. But teenage girls, especially if they’ve never had one before, tend to over-dream their boyfriends. The expectations are so high. But no one’s perfect, and fairytales rarely happen, girls. Sorry to destroy that wonderful fantasy you had of Prince Charming.
The thing is, there’s a lot of pressure attached to a boyfriend. People are watching you. They want to know what’ll happen between you, whether you’ve kissed, where you went on a date. Your girlfriends will be especially inquisitive, to the point where it gets a little annoying. They will want to know every single little thing. And people will gossip. Some will disapprove. “I can’t believe Sally and Ben got together. It’s not going to work, I mean, come on.” And you just have to deal.
And then there’s the parents. Unless you have the most amazing parents in the history of the world, they will be difficult. Don’t blame them. This is new to them as well. They’re possibly even more scared than you are. Prepare yourself for some long talks about responsiblility.
And unless you have the most perfect guy and you can talk to him for an hour straight without getting bored (don’t you wish), the first relationships tend to be a little awkward. I mean, think about it. If you’re like me, you get tongue-tied around the opposite sex. And if you’re not, then you are extremely lucky. And I’m extremely jealous.
The first boyfriend is always the hardest, girls. It’s difficult, even if you both really like each other. Don’t expect it to be easy.
But you’ll be fine. I’m sure of it. I’m just warning you, there are such things as downsides to boyfriends. Just wanted to inform you.

The author's comments:
Based on my experiences and the experiences of my friends and family.

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This article has 4 comments.

on Apr. 26 2011 at 6:40 pm
megsloveslions GOLD, Thomasville, Pennsylvania
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Live like there's no tommorow

Yeah I agree with this article,  I'm sad to admit it but, whenever I like a guy, in my head, he's the most wonderful person, but when I see him face to face, its like a totally different person, and yeah i think most people do get tougetied, i know i do too!

on Sep. 21 2010 at 1:27 pm
xXdiffrent_guyXx, Npeachbotton, Pennsylvania
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im different

i agree with CM im diffrent i dont pressure if i love a girl, i love her no matter what

CeeMee said...
on Sep. 9 2010 at 11:24 pm
CeeMee, Thornton, Colorado
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Imagination is more important than knowledge.-Albert Einstein

I do not agree with this article so much. Yes, personally I do belive being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, but every relationship is different. I'm sure everyone dreams about a guy who will come along, and put a smile on her face. Yes, they will imagine him being the perfect guy, and that is okay. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has hopes. And this might be one of them. The girl who tries to imagine the perfect guy, will be dissapointed not once or twice, but plenty of times.

The preassure will not only be attached to the boyfriend though. If you are in a relationship, the preassure is on both. It will not take one, but the two of you to make it work. People will be people, and yes they will get nosy. But that should not be a problem, that will always be a problem in people's lifes. And it isn't only the girlfriend's who get annoying but the guys too. But why should other people's opinion even matter?

I do agree witht he parent thing though.

But like I said, every relationship will be different. Just try and put in from your part.(:

rach315 said...
on Sep. 7 2010 at 4:18 pm
rach315, Barstow, New Mexico
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"Sunshine is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us up. snow is exhilarating; there is really no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather" -John Ruskin

i completely agreee with everything in this article:)